Waiting for the Right Time to Feel
Do you ever have that feeling in the morning, the I just need to get through today feeling?
Do you see all the hurdles between you and a moment you look forward to?
Is this moment a weekend? A vacation? A moment when the sun goes down, and the dishes are done and you can pause before your next act of living?
And then perhaps,as you go about your busy day, a little bomb is dropped.
An anger, a frustration, a sadness, a realization?
Something you must think about, but you don’t have time, not right now.
Does this happen to you?
It happens to me.
What do you do?
How do you wait for the right time to feel?
Should you wait for a better time to feel something?
I think the answer is often yes.
The answer is to pay attention to the moment, because there will be important details in what comes up. However, it is important to not REACT in the moment. A little bit of distance helps you to line up the emotion with a resolution instead of a reaction.
So, how do you wait?
My sweetheart will tell you that I am really good at putting things off. Sometimes things will wait for months for me to return to them. This has something to do with the relativism of me and time. We are only distantly related, I fear.
Treeing
Tonya Harding, of skating and knee-hitting fame, told a reporter once that when she goes out to skate, she imagines a tree and then hangs everything she is concerned about in its branches.
Then, when she is done again, she picks them back up.
Treeing your concerns can be a great way to go.
Setting the Time for your Feeling
Visualizing the place where you will feel the feeling is a good way to set the day and time to feel it.
When it is night and I have put the last cup in the cupboard, I will sit at my desk and write down how I feel.
Do these two steps: tree the concerns and change your focus. Visualize the place and time and then meet the need to feel your emotions at a time of peace.
As you do these two things, you will find that the important emotions filter to the top, and the things that don’t matter fall away, sift out, get worked out without you.
In the pattern of this, you will find peace, loving peace.
Two wonderful new techniques for me to try – I thank you for those! & thank Tanya too
I work with animals and for people. Sometimes the people want one thing and the animals have other needs. I often find that I am saving the frustrations that I feel with the humans to think about later as I try to guide them to see what they are doing that is hurting their animals. Problem with me is that I ‘forget’ to come back and process those frustrations because it might mean I have to feel icky negative things that I don’t want to. Now I will try hanging them out on a branch and choosing a specific time and place to review them.
I’ll comment on more posts now that I know it is important to you ~~ You have become very important to me
Elfie
Words, come easy.